Late night think rant

Cereta's excellent post on men and rape by way of Coffeeandink's links and post
( Hat tip yelo son and sex _and Race)

So I'm doing that thesis THANG and some of you knwo I am a "blogger"
Mostly WOC issues and I'm hoping to be getting my grad in that.SO combine that with my propensity to say whatever the blue blazing hell comes to my pretty napptural head.

I am read/talking/ pondering on date rape and sexual assault.

First and foremost I continue to be a fucking amazed by the consistent use of " oh no oneI know would?"

Please tell me how many people YOU KNOW who would go

Hi I am the type of person who will willfully and openly use another person and disregard their will, and frankly how many of you really would take action into isolating that person?

Know how many times people have explained "away" a person's racism sexism classism ?"

How many of you have brushed off or giggled off someones nastiness cause well

"their not that way to you"

and I'm not saying dis own them but even ACKNOWLEDGING THE REALITY OF WHAT THAT COULD MEAN FOR OTHERS

( its part of the reason I talk bout myself so damn much in addition to my big ego I want you to knwo I am speaking ONLY FOR ME)
yeah sure you really would stand up and fight that.

Oh you would?

Prove it when a woman says she is assaulted of has concerns

Make the first thing out your mouth NOT

" not all guys/I would never /you should"

but what can I do to help?

or even the mere attempt at understanding the world i go through in THIS BODY IN THIS SKIN

isn't the world you go through

but I have a real shit time of up front no bullshit working with any white feminist org to taklk about this

Why?

because my " rape " ain't your "rape"

It's why i hate the fucking " this is what a feminist looks like/take back the night/ psuedo sex positive ( as opposed to sex AND SEX WORKER ) positive

the night ?

never mine .

Me this body this skin a CONSTANT reminder of colonialist rape , people like me only come up when it's in relation to THEIR experiences at social events .

Meanwhile we're trying to deal with the systematic sexual assault by social events, government etc etc etcit's something they "missed" or you know petition worthy

but vibrators and the right to hen peck boyfriends

RALLY TIME.

I want to be less bitter but every time i hear this shit it becomes a well we fight for EPEW blah blah oh and *insert horrible soulcrushing experience of LGBTQ WOC* so TAKE US SERIOUSLY as we were slogans


But my final FINAL HUh moment.

Is this gray rape/ we can teach sexual yes cues/ oh___didn't know?

Nope sorry I ain't letting nobody of the hook that easy.

I m gonna need you to explain in VERY VERY SMALL WORDS AND SLOWLY

hwo you can miss someone wanting you.

How you can miss someone asking and pleading you to continue , being involved enough to HAVE ANY VOICE AT ALL while you BUT NAKED AND RARING TO GO?


if part of you roll is to let the person you're with KNOW WHAT YOU WANT

AND TO MAKES SURE YOU KNOW WHAT THEY WANT

how do you" miss cues".

How is it UNSEXY ( i have heard this I immediately knew why this fools girl was so cranky)

to make sure asnd ask permission to be thoughtful

How truly unimaginative do you have to be to not figure out hwo to make ENJOYING SEX SEXY

unless

wait a minute

YOU ARE NOT LOOKING??


So help me out since I give you TOO MUCH INFO but I ma also (one of ) The MOST INTERESTING friend on facebook.

splain me?

yell at me say I'm a dottering nitwit

but when I am analyzing text ( friday night I know)about ways to position the singular black female body in performance and how much of that comes from witness to violence and I hear the sheer ignance that passes as discourse